October 13, 2019

As we get to know each other and are in the rosy glow of lust, we nod and agree and quote beautiful platitudes about the wonder of change. And then, once that shimmer of new love is worn around the edges with some reality, the hammer of “Accept me or else” comes out of...

August 16, 2019

I have come to accept that unless a couple truly yearns for children, forced monogamy with legal approval is irresponsible and unrealistic. Treating others with respect and honesty about what we need, while staying safe and rejoicing in being sexual beings is just as v...

August 3, 2019

KNOWLEDGE IS POWER! Sounds good, right? After all, who can argue with knowledge? Whoa! Let's back that wise old truck up just a sec and re-phrase:            WHO CAN ARGUE WITH KNOWING?

July 8, 2019

Aging in today’s world is a cruel irony in that in the afternoon of our lives we know so much more…. as our bodies crumble around us. No wonder my mind won't quiet itself; it's too busy laughing.

June 29, 2019

Women of “a certain age” are at a disadvantage when circling the dating pool of available men.  Men our age aren’t interested in us old ladies; they want a piece of young arm candy to prove their virility isn’t ​​compromised.

June 26, 2019

Like I’m somehow to blame for the fact that life just sucks sometimes and we get caught up in the mess and have to deal with it. Walking into the room of a dementia patient who is shrieking that “they’re taking over the facility!!” or being abandoned by someone you tru...

June 25, 2019

I wanted a relationship, but he just needed a place to live.

January 24, 2019

As I have marched along my personal timeline of aging, not much jumps out and surprises me anymore, though. That can be a good thing on most days; our hearts probably can’t take it. But once in a while, I am caught off guard.

December 29, 2018

As I contemplate another 10 years of all this fun, I have a few random thoughts, things I have learned by screwing things up or ignoring the danger signs for way too long......

August 27, 2018

Community means being connected to others, either by living next door or down the street, or simply through our humanity.